28, 29, … 30!
The Red Pavilion in Brooklyn, New York
Figuring It Out…
28, 29, 30! Wow. There’s something about that countdown. There’s also something about entering a new decade in your life after your 20’s. There are a few things that you may do.
Contemplate the choices you’ve made over the past 10 years of your life.
Wonder if you’re on a path to be where you want to be in life within the next 10 years.
Ask yourself if you should/ shouldn’t be doing the things that your peers are doing. (ie. getting married, buying houses, having children, etc.)
Feel completely lost
Any and all of these feelings can occur regardless of your “success” in life.
I moved to New York City at the age of 18. I successfully completed undergrad and graduate school by the age of 24. I can pay my own NYC rent. I have the perfect dog. I have a great boring job at an Ivy League University that allows me to live a great life. I have traveled to 7 different countries in 14-month span. I am physically healthy, happy, and in a healthy relationship. I have a life that a lot of people dream of… Why do I feel like I’m behind in life then? Why do I feel like I haven’t been moving forward? These are questions I ask myself consistently.
Turning 30 really amplified these questions and the overwhelming confusion about life. Do I want children? Do I want to be married? When do I want these things? Will my career lead me to a llfe where I can afford these hypothetical children? The questions just poured in. The funny part is, my family does not pressure me in any way. My friends (some married, some homeowners, some mothers) support everything that I do. My partner agrees with my choices and dreams. So am I the drama? Am I the toxic person putting this imaginary pressure on myself?
I’m writing this blog because I know I’m not alone. And others should know this too. We are all in different yet equally beautiful stages in our lives. We are ALL figuring it out. People are married with children and they are still figuring it out. The fact is, you never really figure it out. So here’s my advice
“You live your life. You try to make decisions that make you happy in that moment. You pay your bills (even though it’s no fun). Try not to go insane in this crazy world (good luck). And you love the people who love you. THAT is figuring it out. LIVING.
P.S. A great birthday celebration really softens the blow! Check out Brooklyn’s Red Pavillion with your friends or partner. I certainly had a great pre-birthday night.
